Love Addiction Test: Am I Addicted to Love?

Am I addicted to love? Falling in love is one of the most powerful human experiences. For some people, though, the need for romance, attention or a relationship becomes something they cannot live without, even when it causes pain. This free, confidential love addiction test has 31 short questions, each answered with “never”, “sometimes” or “often”, and takes about five minutes. At the end you will see what your answers suggest and what to consider next.

Take the love addiction test

Answer each question honestly, based on your relationships and feelings over the past year. You do not need to give your name or email.

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Sex And Love / Romance Addiction

This self-assessment is designed to offer insight into your experiences with sex and love/romance addiction and how they may be affecting your life. It’s important to remember that this quiz is not a medical or clinical assessment. If your responses suggest you might be experiencing issues with sex and love/romance addiction, or if you’re concerned about these behaviors, we’re here to support you. We can provide a more thorough evaluation and discuss a range of treatment options tailored to your needs. Seeking help is a positive step towards understanding your relationship with sex and love and making any changes that could improve your quality of life. Reach out today for confidential support.

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Do you invest more and more time in finding variety in your sexual or romantic activities in order to find the same level of satisfaction?

Never

Sometimes

Often

2 / 31

Are you uncomfortable with how often you masturbate, where or how you do it, or the fantasies you engage in?

Never

Sometimes

Often

3 / 31

Has your romantic or sexual behavior threatened or ruined another important relationship or job?

Never

Sometimes

Often

4 / 31

Does your need for a lover make you wonder if you’re crazy?

Never

Sometimes

Often

5 / 31

Have you had sex at a time or in a place where you did not want to?

Never

Sometimes

Often

6 / 31

Have you had sex with someone you didn’t really want to have sex with?

Never

Sometimes

Often

7 / 31

Do you hide your true feelings about (or activities with) another person from others?

Never

Sometimes

Often

8 / 31

Do you believe that the right person, relationship, or sexual encounter can fix your life or make everything okay?

Never

Sometimes

Often

9 / 31

Do you feel that most of your problems stem from being with the wrong person?

Never

Sometimes

Often

10 / 31

Do you need to be in love in order to feel truly masculine or feminine?

Never

Sometimes

Often

11 / 31

Do you have difficulty concentrating on other tasks because your head is filled with another person?

Never

Sometimes

Often

12 / 31

Do you keep a written or mental list of the partners you’ve had?

Never

Sometimes

Often

13 / 31

Do you feel that you are valued mainly because of what you provide the other person in the relationship?

Never

Sometimes

Often

14 / 31

Do you set limits on your romantic or sexual behavior that you cannot stick to?

Never

Sometimes

Often

15 / 31

Do you grant sexual favors so that someone will like you or love you more?

Never

Sometimes

Often

16 / 31

Do you try to control a relationship, deciding how often you see someone or have sex?

Never

Sometimes

Often

17 / 31

Do you flirt without meaning to?

Never

Sometimes

Often

18 / 31

Does life seem to get worse and worse no matter what you do?

Never

Sometimes

Often

19 / 31

When one relationship ends, do you begin another one immediately?

Never

Sometimes

Often

20 / 31

Does romance, fantasizing, being in love, or romantic intrigue give you a high followed by a crash?

Never

Sometimes

Often

21 / 31

Do you feel desperate or uncomfortable when away from your lover, partner, or best friend?

Never

Sometimes

Often

22 / 31

Does spending time and energy on relationships provide an escape from other problems?

Never

Sometimes

Often

23 / 31

Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought you should leave but couldn’t?

Never

Sometimes

Often

24 / 31

Do you find yourself in one difficult relationship after another?

Never

Sometimes

Often

25 / 31

Do you frequently “hit it off” instantly with another person and develop a sudden intense crush or relationship?

Never

Sometimes

Often

26 / 31

Do you obsess about being with another person, even if you know the experience will be uncomfortable or harm you in some way?

Never

Sometimes

Often

27 / 31

Are there goals you aren’t meeting because you are overly focused on another person?

Never

Sometimes

Often

28 / 31

Do you feel like your life is out of control because of your relationship needs?

Never

Sometimes

Often

29 / 31

Have you ever wished you could be more emotionally independent?

Never

Sometimes

Often

30 / 31

Do you feel alive only when you are with someone else?

Never

Sometimes

Often

31 / 31

Do you feel empty when you are alone?

Never

Sometimes

Often

The results are not a diagnosis. If your answers raise concerns, a confidential conversation with a professional can help you understand the pattern and how to change it.

What is love addiction?

Love addiction, also called romance addiction or relationship addiction, is a pattern in which the need for a romantic relationship, or for the feeling of falling in love, takes control of a person’s life. It is not a formal diagnosis, but therapists recognize it as a real and painful pattern. It often grows out of loneliness, low self-worth or early experiences of abandonment, and it can overlap with sex addiction and codependency.

Common signs of love addiction

• Feeling that you cannot be happy or whole without a partner
• Moving quickly from one relationship to the next, or never being single
• Staying in relationships that are unhealthy or even dangerous
• Constant fear of being abandoned, and doing almost anything to avoid it
• Chasing the excitement of a new romance, then losing interest
• Neglecting friends, work or your own needs because of a relationship

Love addiction or sex addiction?

Love addiction centers on the need for attachment and romance. Sex addiction centers on compulsive sexual behavior. The two can overlap. Read more about the difference between sex addiction and love addiction, or take our sex addiction test and our codependency and people-pleasing test.

Getting help

Retorno, an addiction treatment center near Beit Shemesh, Israel, founded in 1998, treats sex and pornography addiction alongside substance addictions, in English, with separate programs for men and women. If your answers point to love addiction, a confidential conversation can help you understand whether it is connected to another addiction and what kind of help fits. Read more about help for porn and sex addiction in a Jewish setting, or contact Retorno for a confidential consultation.

Frequently asked questions

Is love addiction real?

Love addiction is not a formal diagnosis, but therapists recognize it as a real pattern in which the need for romance or a relationship feels out of control and continues despite harm.

How do I know if I am addicted to love?

Signs include feeling unable to be alone, moving quickly from one relationship to another, staying in harmful relationships, and constant fear of abandonment. This test can help you take an honest look, and a professional can give you a clearer answer.

Can love addiction be treated?

Yes. Therapy can help you understand what drives the pattern, build self-worth, and learn to form healthier relationships. Support groups can also help.

Is this love addiction test confidential?

Yes. The test is free, and you do not need to give your name or email to take it.